How do I stay married to someone I've never loved?

[Jonny]

I married her because we got along very well and we had a lot in common. We agreed on a lot of issues and were very like minded but theres one problem.... I never loved her. I figured that I would grow to love her but its been almost 3 years since we've been married and I've been dying inside. I can't fake it anymore. Since we've been married its been nothing but fighting and arguing. And the first 2 years were absolutely hellish!! I cant take this anymore. I always find myself day dreaming about someone else who doesnt even exist jus to keep my self happy. What do I do? Ive prayed and prayed and PRAYED for so long for God to help me "love" her but the feelings were never really there. And it affected our sex life in a huge way. I never want it. Ever. And it kills her too. Im just not attracted to her. sigh. If anyone can show me a light at the end of the tunnel I would really appreciate it. I'm on the edge of divorce. I know it isnt what God wants but I cant take it anymore. I want to love someone with all my being....

[scott]

Jonny,

there is a good book " Love Dare" In that book it will teach you how to love your wife. We learn to love people when we get Love from God to love our wife with good and bad we are all broken people ..I think your looking a feeling but love is not a feeling. We some times put our own needs in front of our spouse and become selfish. I think this book will help you and along with counseling can help you see that you can love you wife in the way Jesus loved people. Get help from your friends too to support you..and listen to people ho care for you and your wife.. well I hope that helps..God bless Scott