how to lose friends and alienate people
anyone seen that movie?
lol, no here's my problem:
I have a friend I've known for about 4 years. We meet every now and then, talk about life and work and stuff... We seemed to "click" well from the beginning. I always thought the friendship was healthy but lately I've been having some doubts about that.
The past few years have been kinda hard for me because I've been working through a lot of childhood pain. But doing that brought me closer to myself and God and my life changed for the better. I was a very self sufficient person before, didn't think I needed anyone. But now I'm letting people get closer to me than ever before. I made some new friends who've been so good to me it makes my heart feel warm when I'm writing this down.
When I compare the friends I used to have with the new people I've met, I find my old friends controling and anxious people. I used to like em because I was rahter compliant. But that changed and now I find myself looking for excuses to not spend time with them anymore. especially one. She tends to get angry when I say no to her or don't give her the attention she thinks she deserves. When I confront her with that she flips out. She also talks all the time and can never just be quiet with anyone. Compared to my other friends she seems very critical and arrogant at times. I feel really angry around her and I just don't like her anymore. I find no reason to want to be around her and I want to end the "friendship".
How do I let her know that? Ending this kinda scares me and I don't know why, could be guilt.
your thoughts are welcome
SuzyQ
lol, no here's my problem:
I have a friend I've known for about 4 years. We meet every now and then, talk about life and work and stuff... We seemed to "click" well from the beginning. I always thought the friendship was healthy but lately I've been having some doubts about that.
The past few years have been kinda hard for me because I've been working through a lot of childhood pain. But doing that brought me closer to myself and God and my life changed for the better. I was a very self sufficient person before, didn't think I needed anyone. But now I'm letting people get closer to me than ever before. I made some new friends who've been so good to me it makes my heart feel warm when I'm writing this down.
When I compare the friends I used to have with the new people I've met, I find my old friends controling and anxious people. I used to like em because I was rahter compliant. But that changed and now I find myself looking for excuses to not spend time with them anymore. especially one. She tends to get angry when I say no to her or don't give her the attention she thinks she deserves. When I confront her with that she flips out. She also talks all the time and can never just be quiet with anyone. Compared to my other friends she seems very critical and arrogant at times. I feel really angry around her and I just don't like her anymore. I find no reason to want to be around her and I want to end the "friendship".
How do I let her know that? Ending this kinda scares me and I don't know why, could be guilt.
your thoughts are welcome
SuzyQ
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Permalink Reply by Stacy Darrow on -
Iam going through the exact same situation with one of my friends too. Looking back on the friendship I just feel its too toxic and cant continue if I am going to become closer and fulfilled with my relationship in Christ. She is very angry and is telling me Im being selfish and immature. I think for the first time in my life Iam doing what is best for me and not trying to fix everyone else!!! I have made so many new friends that are my sisters and brothers in Christ that are supporting and loving unconditionally. This is a brand new expierence for me. I ve never had that. I have been praying that I am making the right decision and that Christ will show me the best path to take.
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