Rejection(How do we battle the feel of pain?)

[chukky_gal27]

hello there, the word rejection has been something common in my life. I am 27 now and for the past 10 years non-stop i have been going through this pain. I am the youngest in my family, i could say that i have got a decent family who loves me dearly. As i turn teenage and till now i am an adult, love and relationship has never worked well in my life. Rejection after rejection, only pain, insultment and embarrasement that left for me to bear. Until last year, at one point after being rejected, i attempted suicide, because i dont see my life going anywhere. I currently pursuing my degree and working, i have got a good reputation for the dedication of my work. But i dont know why ,i always see myself at the end of the road, nowhere to go. i dont know whats wrong with me.... any men who near me, will soon move away, and that has made me really fear to near any men. Living in the society(asian), as my age catching up, everywhere i go, my relatives and friends oftenly enquire on my plans to settle down. i give them thousands of reasons, but the truth, there is no one to love me and accept me for who i am. Its really painful.Its like i am not fit for anyone.Guys i need some support. Thanks

[chukky_gal27]

hey guys,..... really thank you very much. The words of love really give a great impact on me. I feel God is talking through u people. Thanks. i really appreaciate it.

[maria feliciano]

This is the day that the Lord has made. I will be glad and rejoice in it. I am 51 and still experiencing the effects of rejection blows from my past. A few things the Lord has revealed to me was that when I thought about myself alot I forgot to think about others. And even less about Him and His love for me when Jesus died for me. Also when I was in my relationships I gave too much because I wanted that much in return. I thought that the more I gave the more I'd receive. Not so my child. It seem to make the men I knew feel overwhelmed with meeting certain standards I was setting I didn't even realize I was doing. Aside from choosing the wrong man for myself, if they fell short of my expectations I felt resentful and bitter. Sort of masking the onset of fear of another rejection when all that was really happening was the man was just being himself -----a man. But OH NO, that wasn't good enough for me. I was always so sure deep inside I was on my way to another rejection. Sweetheart, steer clear of negative thoughts and especially negative people. I too have had counselling and medication the whole nine yards. I can relate to you when you said how all they do is listen while you speak on and on. Without any feedback I felt just as bad when I came out of the session as when I went in. I would not go as far as to tell you what is right or wrong for you so as not to steer you in the wrong direction, but I'll venture to encourage you to seek out bible believing Christians for support and guidance to the truth about our lives. I am a born again christian and if you are too then we are sisters in Christ and being sisters in Christ we share the same Father in heaven. Jesus came so that we may have life and a life more abundant. Life should not be hard to be better. That's a bold face lie. Peace and love. God is Love. God is kind. Take a few minutes a day to read your bible. Find a bible study class. Look for passages of encouragement. Ask Him to open your eyes to His word and reveal Himself to you and believe HE WILL. Although I am still struggling, I am praying with all my heart for you that you will not experience what you are going through right now for as long as I have. I wish I knew "a me" when I was 27. But God has a plan for you and a purpose for your life bigger than you could imagine. He didn't promise us a life with no problems but He did promise us He will be with us every step of the way. I know it is hard, but when we trust in humans (man) more that God we will always be disappointed. I really hope you stay in touch with me. Again, I am where you are somewhat at my age. Maybe we can walk this out together as He heals us both. Give Thanks everyday for everything you do have.

[Jack_KD]

I know that this post is a few months old, but I wanted to share that I definitely feel your pain. I, too, often feel that sense that there is something just not right with me. That I have some ugly flaw that drives people away from me. That no one would want me. That there's no place for me. You could call this feeling shame. Or you can call it self-hatred. But whatever you call it, I definitely have been there, and maybe am still there, still trying to work things out.

I wish I had an easy solution for you and that the answer is to say that if you pray or read the Bible or focus on Jesus, that things will get better. But I have to be honest and say that that has not worked for me, personally.

The only thing that has worked, the only crumbs from the table, has been finding those safe people who will accept you, who understand weakness, and who have the ability to love you through it. (Maybe your community of people (you said asian?) are subtly dragging you down and make you feel worse about yourself?) It is hard to find those good people who will love you for who you are, but they are out there. It's honestly like finding a separate world - a world where you are loved unconditionally. This world is different than the one where only the outwardly pretty, the talented, the confident, the perfect, the cool, the polished succeed. It's a different world where Christ wants you to live in - the world where the flawed, unfinished, meek, and imperfect people...have a home, and are loved for who they are, not what they are.