Trying to connect

[Leesha]

How do you help yourself feel connected when your feeling alone.

[Sheri]

You are always a separate person so it's a healthy thing to feel the separation. But the idea that we are alone is an illusion. We are surrounded by air but we can't see it. We don't see the wind, but we see it's effects. God is always with us and loves us even when we can't feel His presence. The truth is we are surrounded by people all the time unless you're on a desert island or you live way out in the country. You could call a friend, or go on the Chat room here. It's more risky, but you could go out and meet someone new. Sometimes, I just make a list and get busy knowing that the feeling will pass.

[scott]

When we feel alone and unconnceted we need to reach out to othr people. Are you a chrstian or are you a seeker? Do you have a church do you have friends you can talk to about struggle s in life? We do need to be connected to other to have a good life safe friends.you have a small group in your church ? I found in my life when i am connect to my wife and my safe freinds i am stronger with my faith and my love for people...Do you have friends facde to face or friends to chat with? we all need to connect on different level so know God and know others... I hope that helps....God bless Scott

[Sheri]

I just learned this today, but God made us to need other people. I knew it was important to be part of a church group. But it's important to find safe people we can trust to meet our needs for empathy, and affirmation. There were more, but I'm going to have to go back and study some more to learn them. I'm still finding those kinds of people. There are a lot of them here at New Life. Lots of people here will love you.

[scott]

we need to connect with other safe people to be heathly....we need connection

[David Norman]

well for myself i have to be willing to listen to the similarties between me and others, the problem with me is i live in my own head alot of the times, so i don't listen. Another thing which helps me is group discussing, openly and honestly sharing with other people exactly how I am feeling whether it's full of rage, anger, bitterness, opening letting other people know what I feel seems to help me more than anyone else, it lets me know how insane I can be sometimes. When your open and honest with other people it will also take away the uniqueness to your problems, feelings, and fears. One thing Leesha I never thought about, is our ability to lie to ourselves and actually believe the lies, thinking that our lies are reality. No one is harder on you than you, get in a group somewhere and just openly express how your feeling don't hold back, it's none of your business what the people in a group think or say, just try to be honest with yourself and another human being. I think that's another thing, is just feeling like your in isolation, it's the worse. Love you and hope that helps someway

david

[Jeff W[ho Me?]]

Hmmm....3 months since you posted this, but maybe, if you're like me, this is an ongoing struggle that may still be happening. This isn't meant to sound flippant, but if you're feeling alone, then perhaps you're disconnected which can make you feel alone. New Life would recommend as Scott indicated, that you go get connected in different settings to break the isolation and along the way, help you feel less isolated and alone and more connected. Small group Bible studies can help depending on the group dynamics. Celebrate Recovery groups might be of some help in that it will connect you with others who are trying to overcome hurts, habits, and hangups, and give you a place to talk about your feelings, fears, and so on. They also are intentional about having the CR participants and leaders to reach out and stay in contact as accountability partners and sponsors. Again, more touches through the week to break the loneliness.

[Leesha]

Thank you for all of your feedback, I was really surprised people actually cared enough to respond. I understand reaching out to groups or a trusted friend, but the mojor problem is the social anxiety i suffer from. I am still trying to find solutions. Thanks for listening and caring.