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Comment by Cindy64503 on October 29, 2008 at 9:37pm

I know some of the people on this sight have been praying for me since I joined last night. Praying that I would meet other women in my church struggling with the same issues. Of sexual abuse and sin. Tonight at my support group at my church God put me in touch with a couple of women I could talk to who are or have struggled to God is Good.

Jeremiah 29:11

Comment by Cindy64503 on October 29, 2008 at 9:33pm

Lizzie thank-you for sharing your story (in the last post) sounds exactly like mine. I could have wrote it myself. Yes God wants you helping others who are hurting to we were not on this earth to go through life alone. Those things that the devil meant to harm you God will turn around for your good and his glory if you let him. God can use all of your hurts for your good and his glory even the hurts caused by sin because there are many others who are hurting from the same stuff too. God called you because he loves you and needs you to do his work for him. Remember God does not call the equiped he equips the called. If we tell God we don't have the ability to o his work watch out that you are not calling God a liar because he made you and knows everything about you and he knows that you are able. He will be there with you and for you and he will equip you.

Comment by Lizzie Taylor on October 29, 2008 at 8:21pm

WOW Tricia do you some times think if you would have verbalized it wore a sign that said hurt ME all you want but don't touch my children, you could've kept it from happening to your children. I am just saying I question that some times. I know there nothing else I could have done. I did what the family serveses ask me to do from the first divoreed to the second for my daughter and now my daughter lives with one of the liers. Oh how which I could have atleast some control. But as you said and I have to keep reminding myself that God is the answer. Someday in GODS perfect time justice will be served. God has a plan for you. Jeremiah 29:11

Comment by Lizzie Taylor on October 29, 2008 at 3:47pm

Thank you Cindy64503 for your encouraging comment! I can't agree with you more then just simply believe and know that God allowed this to happen to some people because HE IS GOD and HE knows that we can handle this much (which HE never gives you more than you can handle through HIM) we can handle others that are in a bigger need. Even before I know it was OK to talk about the abuse and not feal guilty or shame I felt like God was telling me that someday I will be talking or helping people are going/have been through abuse.
There I don't why HE choosing a person like me, but I am not gonna fight HIM anymore. Although I have alot of growing and trusting in God to do yet.
Our GOD is an awsome GOD and humerous some isn't HE.
I LOVE Jeremiah 29:11 too. Keep looking up to the HEAVENLY FATHER and Thanks again!

Comment by Cindy64503 on October 29, 2008 at 1:08pm

thanks for those of you who have quoted Jeremiah 29:11 that is such a blessing and a God thing. That is the verse people have most quoted over me praise God.

Comment by Cindy64503 on October 29, 2008 at 1:07pm

Lizzie I am very sorry for all the pain you have gone through. It seems so unfair that some of us have to suffer so much. You asked why. I try to remember that the reason God allowed me to go through all of the abuse I have endured was because it gives me the experiance that I need to help others who are hurting too. Millions of women have been through similiar hurts and they need to be reached out to, loved and shown the strength and love of Jesus Christ.

Comment by Lizzie Taylor on October 29, 2008 at 9:16am

Yes I have or am currently attending a support group once a wk. I grew up in a large amish family and was sexually abused from the time l remember until I was about 14 years of age by family members. Than I never told anybody until I was going through my first devorce, which I went through sexual abuse in both marriages I have been in, I encourage anybody to start the healing process a.s.a.p. Know that its not your fault and know that God still has a plan for YOU. I don't understand why this happens, nor do I have answers for eighter one of them but I do know that without God's GRACE & Peace there is no light at the end of the tunnel. I know this in real live, cause I have tried to live a secular life less then a year ago and I went down to where I couldn't see a purpose or see a light at the end of the tunnel and got Pregnant through this, which I ended up choosing an open adoption for the baby which is very painful, but I got comfort and peace knowing I was doing the right thing for the baby and since than my eyes have been opened to the light I love to see. and am learning to trust God again and know that he has a future for me
I started support gruop in Jan. of 08 and its been very hard and good. I agree with Jenny if you go to one and don't like please try different ones until you find one you can find one you can trust and be real.
For all who can benifit from this. God does have a plan for you Jeremiah 29:11

Comment by Ruth on October 29, 2008 at 8:22am

Attending Al Anon is good for me. In that group, you can say as much as you want, or not say anything and just listen. I too, had to walk in the al anon room and see people and let them know that I had a loved one with a drinking problem. It is tough, to admit that to yourself let alone others in your community. With the sexual abuse issue, I tell friends and people often when I feel comfortable and safe. It helps every time you say it and admit it, to let the truth out. Problems like sexual abuse get worse when you don't admit it. I believe saying the truth and letting people know you and get into your soul frees you and I really want more and more Freedom! Truth telling and people you trust really help.

Comment by Jamey Coyle on October 29, 2008 at 8:13am

I was sexually abused as a child by a family member. When I realized I had to face that and get help, I went to my pastor's wife and told her the whole story. I started counseling with a lady from my church who had had a similar experience when she was a teenager. It has helped to talk to someone who knows what I'm going through, but I don't know that I would feel comfortable sitting in a circle, or whatever and opening myself up like that in front of a group of people.

Comment by Jenny on October 29, 2008 at 7:57am

I have attended groups in the past. The first time I went the it was really hard to even go. For me the act of going alone was in a way like a public admission of the fact I had been sexually abused and raped. However, I just continued to go and it got a little easier. The group itself was not run very well, but God worked on a lot in me because I wasn't hiding anymore. I have been to different ones since, and have yet to find on I thought was really beneficial. However, that is the nature of groups period. There are a lot of different factors, like who is running it, what topics are covered, and probably the biggest one - the people in the group. If you decide to go and don't like it but still feel you could benefit from one, try others until you find the right fit for you.

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