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Trisha: I am proud of you for rethinking your position of submitting to a controlling and dominant man.
I understand, I also feel guilty also taking time for myself and taking time to respond on this forum. We have our own business and there is s...
Cathy: I think I’ll get the brain book too.
For anyone unfamiliar with the New Testament concept of Mutual Submission:
The concept of male privilege is cultural not New Testament. I Timothy 5:14 for example talks about the woman being the head of...
Trisha:
I feel your pain and desperation. Lots of very tough decisions to make.
If you allow your husband to continue to disregard you, he will. If you take a stand, you have to surround yourself with support and be prepared for the backlash. Whe...
Karla:
We can continue to help you here also. Keep coming back.
Spring
Kathy, love what you said, “It's so polarizing and, in my experience, not really true. What I have found is that BOTH men and women need love. And respect.” Very well put, all of it.
Karla, I too suggest Celebrate Recovery. I went for two years w...
Yes, Giveaccount & Trisha, I have been there. I used to work on my check lists day after day. No matter how much I accomplished my husband told me I did nothing. He could do everything better and faster. If I swept out the garage, he took the blow...
Trisha:
The key to what you said is, "But I feel like I never have the freedom to be me. He is a controlling and angry man. We get along great if I just go along with everything he says and agree with him."
With an angry and controlling man the ...
Paula:
You have every right to be hurt and devastated. Your husband has become so hardened in his heart he cannot relate to your pain. He is entrenched in his own selfishness and can't see beyond that. He is in the conquest stage with this other w...
Comment Wall (3 comments)
- At 8:09pm on April 3, 2009,
Jennifer said… - Thank you for commenting on my issue with the lying boyfriend. I hate lying and here I have spent the last two years dating exactly that. Of course, I didnt know for sure for a long time. And then when I started to see it I kind of couldn't believe it! So your message encouraged me because of the path you have walked. I am sure you are in much pain being married to someone who is not honest and I dont want to just walk myself into a second marriage that is built on deception. Yuck. Thanks for sharing your pain and helping others :)
- At 11:00pm on April 1, 2009,
Mia said… - Dear Spring,
I know what you are going through. I've been there many times and sometimes still do with those who supposedly love me. They make you feel like you are the crazy one. It's called crazy making. i had over 10 years of therapy and 2-3 years of group therapy to get 'over' the craziness of others which almost drove me to the brink and landed me in the hospital more than once- mostly at the hands of criminal men. i strongly suggest seeking professional help asap. contact the New Life 800 number and a counselor will help you get further help. it is urgent you do this as soon as you can so you don't end up hospitalized as i. mental abuse is as or more damaging than anything else sometimes when it is so persistent and insidious. a friend who was a prison counselor said one of (if not) the worst abuse is when someone calls you crazy or implies that you are. i fear for your mental health, Spring. please please get help as soon as possible!! this man sounds like a crazy who needs alot of help, tho' if he doesn't seek it he is beyond help. only one who seeks help can be helped. meanwhile the only thing you can do is to seek help for yourself, protect yourself, and do everything you can to receive the care you need whether you decide to stay or leave. as much as God hates divorce, sometimes that's the only way out of a horrible situation. only God knows if your husband is redeemable and trainable away from this abusive behavior.
i know. i've been through divorce from a crazy psycho who made me to feel as tho' i were the crazy one...!!
there is hope for a happy joyous future whether you are married or alone, but never alone. God is always with us. He promises us thus in His Word. He will never leave us nor forsake us. nothing can separate us from His Love. reread Romans. it is one of the most comforting books of the Bible.
please write me if you'd like. i will be praying for you, dear Sister in Christ.
Mia
- At 8:05pm on April 1, 2009,
Adam said… - Spring, I don't feel I have anything to offer you in terms of advise, but may I say a prayer for you?
Loving Father, we thank you for your faithfulness, truthfulness, and unconditional love you have for us. Often I find myself searching to understand unconditional love because our human experiences and relationships, largely don't embody this agape love.
Remind Spring that you are ever loving even when her husband is not. She has been deeply, repeatedly wounded, but your name is strong and your everlasting arms will carry her through. Show Spring how you are sanctifying her through her trials and that this life is not all we have to look forward to. Envelope her with your love. Surround her with the warmth of the Church to minister and help carry this load weighting her down.
Even in my own trials, Father, I know this does not always bring comfort, but help us to fix are gaze on things above. In the midst of this life, teach us how, and help us persevere through the trials of to have healthy relationships. But, even if the desired end does not come, may I, and may Spring, determine in our hearts to walk with You, even despite the voices in us and around us that seem to say give up.
Thank You that you are the certain unmovable point of reference in our lives. We give your name honor and glory, not for what we feel, not for what we hope to get, but because of who You are and the simple fact you are worthy of the praise due Your name.
Father, glorify Your name, magnify Your son, and do so at our expense.
Amen
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